I'm still here

[~¤DG¤~]

Lovehurts,

I've tried searching for your sitch to read up on it but I can't find it.
Do you have a link for me?

I am a lot better now, I can say with no question.
It's one of the 2 steps forward and 3 steps back type of things.

The thing is, I know he's scared of things going back to the way things were. I completely understand his reservations, if he hurt me the way I hurt him I would feel the same way. I know that. I don't fault him for that.
It's hard for me, as a woman, to feel unwanted. That is basically how I feel. I am grateful that he isn't saying "I want a divorce" but I struggle with this no contact/minimal contact. How can I show him things are different if we never spend time together, and our contact is basically via text? This isn't a marriage! I understand that what we had before was not a marriage either.

At what point, do I say, ok well if you are still this torn up inside I'll make it easier on you and walk away? It's been 3 months. I know to a lot of DB'ers here that amount of time is laughable, but to me it isn't.
I'm not saying that it's enough time to know without a doubt that you want this, but I feel he should have some sort of idea if he wants to try.

I can't promise him that it won't be hard. I can't promise him that I won't hurt his feelings, but I can promise him that I will give it my all, and that I will never hurt him intentionally.

Am I wasting my time?