My sons prayer.....

[whitneypinch]

Hello,

I just want to add something worth noting. Sometimes this get's skipped over on these boards....
We allow "family time" with our x's and our kids. We tend to hope this will help the situation and show our x's our changes.
This is an extremely negative situation for our children. They already are hurting badly and want their parents back together.

My x and I have been told by 2 child/family therapists to STOP going out as a family. It confuses the kids and their continue to wonder why their parents are divorced (don't we all).

My x and I started to all go out as a family about every 2 weeks. The truth is most of the time our x's just want to show our kids and the world that this is all "OK". Of course it's not all "OK". A lot of the time it's to ease our x's feeling of guilt.

So yes, our kids absolutely want us to all go out together as a family but I don't believe it's a positive situation. In fact it leaves me feeling awful for days after.
If we can all go out and have fun then why can't we keep going.....
It turns out my 8 year old daughter feels the same way. Sometimes she pulls my x and I together for a group (family) hug. The last time she did this she was crying afterwards on the way home in the car with me. I understood why she was feeling badly.....

RNP I feel for you. This sure is awful hu?

Hang in there.