I texted W this morning when D13 texted me that she was SURE she was going to back to W's today. I let W know that D13 was going to be there this aft. W texted back "???". I stated that D13 was "choosing with her feet" (a term coined to suggest she could decide where she would go, when she wanted; a term used around here by lawyers). Anyhow, W said she'd talk to D13 about this and told me not to get "freaked out" by this. I just told W that this is setting precedence for when we go to custody.
I left it alone after that. W had texted me a couple more things about it, but I'd already had my convo with D13.
At about the same time, W sent me an email. I cannot be sure that the email came before or after the texting. I only just saw it this evening when I got back and the time stamps are almost identical.
Anyhow, in the email, W indicates... well, I'll just post the email...
"Hey -
You forgot D8's backback for school - it was at the front door with all the other stuff .....
If you are bringing D13 and all her friends home today, you can grab it.
I would like to have the girls next weekend and you can have them the following weekend. You can have them every second weekend and if you want to see them during the week, let me know and we can figure something out."
Yes, I'm a little p'd at this, but not reactive. Just going to my head and trying to figure out my response. Just an FYI, when we had set the time for me to pick the kids up on Saturday, W had already left to go hang at enabling friend's (likely for the weekend). So W's comment about me making it clear that I don't want to talk to her... hmmm...
For those of you playing the home game, we had finally come to a "verbal" agreement that I would have 30% access (not my choice, but what W will "allow") and since my move, I would have the girls most weekends, but it would be "flexible" and things were relatively set for the time being.
Now this...? As I said, did it come before or after texts? Idk. I'm thinking after. It is not for me to figure out "why" this change. But this would take my access to 15%. Also, this is a change from last friday when W indicated that she would like to "split" this coming weekend with me. I still maintain she's being coached in this. She's mostly being "fair" (in her mind), then suddenly comes up with these "wrenches" for me... Like she's trying to prove some point that I'm not aware of... maybe she's saying, "See... don't doubt that I'm not still FULLY in CONTROL..."
I am looking for thoughts on how to respond to this. Remember, I now live about one hour away from W and the kid's school. Tomorrow morning is an "acid test" for me to make sure I can get the kids to school on time in the mornings. In my mind, this is to make sure I can. I have no doubt that W will be checking in to make sure I have done so.
Thoughts? I should respond soon as W will be making plans for the kids with this "demand" if she hasn't already.
