My sons prayer.....

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Eeeeek....i dont know how to quote....never mind Ill learn in a bit. But for now I wanted to reply to your post.

Firstly, thank you so much for replying. Your insight is invaluable. Yes you are correct in saying that I am a little angry (its so much easier to function than when you are sad). Because of this Im confused as to what actions to take next. Here are my options:

1. Continue to go out with H & S one night a week for a little family time.
2. Do something for myself whilst H & S go out and do an activity. I was thinking of enrolling in a self defence class.

Except for last week, our little "family" outings have been quite fun and upbeat. Although one did end up with H & I ML afterwards which in turn made H not contact me for days, which in turn made me feel like chit. H and I never mentioned ML. It was like it never happened. However, I do note that every time we go out H does not contact me for days. This behaviour has not changed for the last 7 weeks. I worry that he is cake eating. H gets to spend most of his days with OW and then gets a little family time to ease his guilt/conscience. Will spending family time with H achieve anything?

However, Im also unsure if I enrol myself in a class that this will make H think that I am punishing him and that I cannot forgive. But I do want to do these activities for self improvement and an added bonus would be that it would give H time to miss me. What do you think? H is picking S3 up tomorrow night. I was planning on not being there and writing an SMS to say that I was doing my self defence class - which I will be doing if thats what I decide upon.


25, yes I did laugh when H talked about my clothes. I couldnt help myself. I dont think he appreciated my outburst but I saw the funny side of it like you did. I couldnt believe H said this when he was cheating on me with OW. WTH! I backslid by justifying myself and saying I felt more confident to wear these clothese because I was going to the gym and felt better. I pointed out they werent for him but for me. But he didnt see it that way. I didnt show anger at all but I could see that he got annoyed. Yes agree jealous H with and unjustified sense of entitlement.

Yes you are right I have to loose the expectations and dissapointment. No anger on my part but dissapointment yes.