I'm no guru, but I do not see 'detaching' as a physical thing, it is an emotional thing. Getting out of the house and GALing. Good thing.
Doing your own thing around the house. Good thing.
But this is not detaching. GAL helps you detach, but it's not the same thing.
I think the best way I heard it explained is that you detach from the R, not from your W. It doesn't mean you don't care. It doesn't mean you don't love your W anymore. What it means is tht you realize the current state of the R is not healthy for YOU. That the R creates negatives, not positives. So with that realization, you detach from in. You stop letting the things she does or say get you down. You reduce the hurt that you feel. You also take the positives in stride. You recognize them, but you do not over react to them.
Also, detaching is a process, it does not happen overnight. Expect backslides, but keep pushing yourself forward.
Like I said, GAL is a big part in helping you detach. I know you complain about the small town you live in and that there is nothing to do. Here is a list. I expect many/most of these things are available anywhere.
Biking Running Gym Softball League Basketball league Book club Church Billiards Bowling Online college courses Music classes Art classes Swimming Crafts Volunteering Golf Horseback riding Photography Ceramics Pottery Gardening Cooking
And I am sure so much more.
No excuses.
Action.
And 25 made a great point.
It is not your responsibility to keep W entertained. It's time to take care of yourself. I'm not saying ignore her. Be kind and friendly, yet strong and confident.
But right now your W is not treating you well. If you don't take care of yourself, no one will.
Be good!
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
