WAW, and a bisexual open marriage part 2

[25yearsmlc]

I don't mean to make your blood boil. I just want you to come up with a plan that gets GB to being happy, with or without her.

That's what ALL the lbsers want, to have our happiness in our own hands. In your sitch, you are also thinking about being a WAS, which is sort of harder.

Once overseas, what obligations do you have to her vis a vis the military? If you split up do you have to pay her move back or does the military? I can't recall. I just don't want you to feel "stuck" either way. Can she hurt your career? (I don't know what your rank or specialty is).

sigh...sorry buddy. I just don't know what to tell you.

I think you making a plan FOR YOU, makes the most sense. And if there's a chance of her working on things, I'm guessing it'll be the idea of losing you. I don't see her "awakening" otherwise, and she might not at all anyhow.

I'm not into games but DB says go ahead and be mysterious, and set some dang limits, CALMLY, always calmly. It projects strength. In fact if she raises her voice, you lower yours. I'm telling you it can be very empowering to remain in control, when someone else is losing theirs.
(( hugs ))