Yeah the wives I read about did want to have sex with other people besides their H's but most did not want to come forward with it. IN FACT a lot of them just said they were going to seek D, rather than work it out or tell their H's about these feelings. I'm not trying to say my W is better than them, as you have said she has been atrocious at times. At least I feel I know the real reason I have a SSM, knowing the truth gives me a better chance than the poor guys that are about to become LBS's.
she's never said she's faked it, instead she says that it got boring repetitive, uninteresting.
Instead she complains that she needs "newness". That the Cause of her sex problems is not a lack of an emotional connection, or years of sub-par sex (caused by the migraine medication she was on), but just a lack of new and exciting partners.
I see this as just another part of her crazy mlc/immaturity. Her lack of appreciation for what she truly does have. The sex is just one facet, she appreciates NOTHING she has, and dreams of what she doesn't have thinking it will make things better. MORE CLOTHES, TRIPS, MOVIES, SEX PARTNERS, ETC. all an attempt to fill a hole she has and can't realize she already has what she needs. I guess you could also say she has an open relationship with her closet, and with her entertainment itinerary. NOTHING IS EVER GOOD ENOUGH, she always wants something new.
God I read how you describe the sitch, and it just boils my blood. Only because I know you are right....
I want to give her a chance to snap out of it, I worry that going overseas will make things exponentially harder if I end things, so she can "learn to appreciate me". Instead I am trying to take a more gradual approach. I guess it's not working as I thought.
She's always talking about needing more time....GAH I hate that about WAW's
Now about the few blissful seconds, those second's used to be YEARS. We spent years together being happy loving each other, and appreciating what we had both materially and in each other. I just want my old life back....
I asked her a few days ago, if she ever felt like you don't know what you want in life? Her response was "all the time". As I said before she is confused and majorly WAWing....
As you have said before her behavior is completely outrageous. 30% of that is because as you have said before she has some issues she needs to work on. The other 70% is because I have let it happen.
My main DB goal now is to NOT let it happen anymore. To call her out, when she is rude, and mean, to not get drawn into a fight, to not feel like I am her personal entertainment coordinator. To enjoy MY OWN LIFE, and let her fester in hers if she choose to.
