WAW, and a bisexual open marriage part 2

[25yearsmlc]

The "Exact same complaint" as your w? Hmm. Okay GB. If you think the only difference is that your w is "honest", I disagree. I want you to be happy, so I have to think, "in the LONG RUN, what will GB be alright with?"

The sex that other couples with a LD/HD problem have (or as you say, are just are not attracted to their spouses) is sex that does more than a physical release. And I just read up some there and many women DO have drops in their libido. (After our last child, I did. Inexplicable, but it came back).

Did any of them think that NOT having sex with their spouses was fine, indefinitely? Did they also want to have sex with other people, WHILE NOT having sex with their own spouses? Did they say the types of things your w says? Did they also hold their h's responsible for them being bored?

Did they ask their h's to leave the room so they could go back into their bedroom to take care of themselves, threaten to become prostitutes,
or leave, every other fight?

Look I am sorry GB. I really am sorry. And I'm not going to say you don't have a point GB, okay? Maybe you do. Seems to me that what you are really saying is you want to find reasons to stay with her. And that's fine.

IF that's what you want, you'll find reasons to stay. Just like she'll find reasons to complain every time she's moody, or angry, or wants to leave.

But I guess, I just don't buy it. I mean sure, maybe there is ONE similarity maybe, but there are a lot of things that are unique to your w. I've been here off and on since '06. Never saw a woman deny her own h, WHILE also wanting OPs, and telling him all this in the ways she does, expecting him to just take this, inside a marriage where the h is the sole breadwinner and she's jobless, living off him, with no kids, with a pending move over seas SO SHE CAN LIVE ON HER OWN???? Sure, of course it might be a bluff GB, but what a bluff!! wth? Who says stuff like this?? Who feels entitled to support from a man to whom shes giving so little? I KNOW SHE CAN BE "nice" to you. If those minutes are enough, then you have your answer.

I'd want to hear a thank you for how you earned an assignment that would bring you to a cool place like wherever you're headed. But Nope, you just get blamed for where you are now and how bored SHE is.

Sorry but I think she's going to have to think she might lose you, to treat you better. If it's important to you, you'll do something about it. If not, you'll be alright with those "nice minutes".

But just so I know I'm not missing something, your w was once very sexually attracted to you, or does she now say she was faking? I mean, what does she say changed?