If that wasn't a good time, find a better time and just say it!
The more you sweep things under the rug, the harder it is to raise the issue. The longer you let it sit, the sillier it seems to bring it up.
But it doesn't go away.
It's still an issue.
And it needs to be put out in the open and addressed.
You say you choose not to talk to him about things that will set him off, but you are making a ton of assumptions there.
You are assuming things that used to set him off still will. You are assuming that you haven't learned better ways to communicate that will make the discussion productive.
You are also assuming that setting him off is a bad thing! Even if, in the short-term, it results in a flare up, if in the long-term he addresses the issue you've raised, you've still won!
Look back at the times you've thought things were going south, that he would move out again, that you were going to have a huge fight. That night he stormed out.
It wasn't the end.
Don't assume this will be either.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
