So I haven't posted about my situation in quite a while. Probably because things are going pretty well for me save a couple of things.
One issue is that my exw is still very angry. We have been separated for over 2 years and divorced almost 1 but whenever things come up where we need to work together it's still a battle. For example we still have this house which is a huge burden to me. After the mortgage and CS get paid I almost no money to live on. Exw insisted that I move out of the house with my 2 dogs (both of them were her's too until they became inconvenient) because the house doesn't show well with dogs living there. I objected because #1 she isn't willing to share the expense of maintaining the house when I move out, and #2 its an unfair burden on my mother to have me + 2 dogs in her spotless house. Last week I moved out in the interest of getting rid of this albatross of a house. I told her that if the house wasn't on the market my June 1st I will stop paying the mortgage and we will default. She will get nothing. I also asked her to come get a key when she picked up D. Well as you may have predicted NOTHING has happened. She didn't ask for a key and she didn't even acknowledge my email.
Does anybody know what happens if you default on a mortgage? Would I ever be able to get another loan? I REALLY don't want to do this but I am so far in debt at this point that I'm not sure I have any other options.
The other thing that is getting to me is that exw is apparently saying some not so nice things to my D about me and my GF. It started with D not wanting to talk to GF even though they had been close, D used to love seeing GF and would even follow her around an talk to her on the days when I had D. That came to an abrupt halt a few weeks ago. And when I asked D why she didn't like GF anymore she said "because mommy doesn't like her. Mommy doesn't want to see GF" I was blown away. My GF has done NOTHING to exw, but exw still has enough of a problem with her to trash her to D? GF didn't come along until it was OVER between me and exw. exw was on to her second relationship after her 1st om kicked her to the curb. Yet somehow she has a problem with GF? I didn't want to confuse D so I didn't argue or tell her 'mommy was wrong'. Eventuall she warmed back up to GF and things are pretty much the way they had been with them.
Then this past weekend D said to me out of the blue "mommy says daddy is bad" then she did an imitation of exw huffing in frustration.
Again I don't want to confuse D but I just asked her if she thought I was 'bad'. At first she said I was but after I reminded her of all of the fun things we do together she finally decided "daddy is not bad"
Does anyone have any experience with this type of behavior? Any advice?
Honestly you would think that I was the WAS and I was the one screwing around.
Maybe that's it... maybe she has told the story so many times with herself in the victim role that she has started to believe it. But regardless its been over 2 years. you would think that the bitterness would be gone, and the need to vilify me would have been resolved.
