From my understanding, Piecing comes when you're both ready and able to communicate openly about the M. From what I'm reading, neither of you has reached that point yet--which isn't to say that you aren't inching your way along towards Piecing, but that until your H is ready to state his intentions openly, keep up the good work DBing! Continue on with everything that is working for you, and keep assessing whether you have reached the point where you're satisfied with all the changes you've made. If there are still more changes you feel you must work on, this period of free-fall is the time to implement them.
