My first reaction is that most of your feelings of being overwhelmed were really self inflicted. They were due to the extra duties you imposed on yourself and family. You were the one who wanted to pay off the house FAST, you were the one maxing out the IRAs, and "allotting" the money.
Like my h and his career, a relentlessly demanding one, when tired, or frustrated, it's almost always his job's fault, not mine. But he has on occasion definitely taken it out on the family. (He's better now but whenever he begins the victim talk, I remind him that HE chose to have a 2nd career in human medicine, not me) I suppose when he comes home he sorely needs refuge and unbeknownst to him, maybe I have had a hard day myself...
It ends up being a cycle. We all have to break those, and it starts with no more victim talk.
So, now, what are your 180s and GAL activities? If you tell me that it's hard to do GAL stuff, remember how it must have been for your w...yeah, it IS hard.
But you have to do them so you don't become bitter.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
