18 Wheels and a Dozen Roses

[OnMyWay]

Overall, an interesting few days. H is alternating acting weird and attentive, then drops off the earth.

Classic WAS activity and it doesn't necessarily mean the OW is still around. My W does this a lot. It's like they put themselves out there and then realize they've exposed themselves too much and pull back. It certainly appears as if he's "fishing" here. That's a good sign.

From what you say, it may be time to have your little talk because finances and timing will require you to. That's fine. Logistics will always trump desire. Find some time when it is just the two of you where you can sit and talk. Sort of "decide together" type of thing. Don't corner him or he'll run. Perhaps you simply have a problem and you want the opinion of a "friend" style discussion.

Somewhere in there, you must tell him what YOU want and let him know, you'll do what is necessary. I'm not sure he knows what he wants, so are you leaving the door open or are you closing and locking it.

When my W moved out, she took some moves in D direction and pushed hard. I finally said "Ok, but it wasn't what I wanted and it would be all on her to do. Apparently, all she wanted was for me to say ok to something she thought she wanted. Never heard another word about it. WAS are strange people.