Knittedscarff, I agree....although I admit I never really looked at it from that point of view. That is exactly why I am going to therapy alone. To figure out why....what are the real reasons, to learn to be honest with myself.
Of course I feel sad about my choices.I feel horrible the guilt and sadness are almost crushing. I have thought many times my W and children would be better people if I were not in their lives. Maybe she would meet someone that she deserves...that wouldnt hurt her. I am not here looking a pitty party, or judgement. I am looking for advice,because given the chance I would like to salvage what is left of my marriage. Your right I didnt tell my wife mainly out of fear of her reaction. But I lost sleep, couldnt eat was extremely depressed. So yes I had a reaction was not like I sat back and smiled because I thought I gotten away with it.
