Well, she didn't move out. Asked me late Friday night if me and our 21 year old son would help her load her furniture into a rental truck early the next morning. I asked her how she would get it out and she told me she knew a "guy" that him and his friend would do it. I politely declined. I reminded her that I had said that while I will not stand in the way of you leaving and seeking a D, I will not help or assist you in getting one. She was livid. She screamed "I told you I was leaving" and then "you owe me". The latter being a reference to my truck being in the shop. She ran me over to pick it up (5 mins from our house). I tried to explain there was a little bit of difference, but she was irate. I asked her, even if I had agreed to help, how could she even bring herself to ask her own son to load up her stuff to help her leave her family. Her response? I'm not leaving my family. I said well you sure are not going on a weekend camping trip. At this, she paused and seemed a little confused.
A little additional info - less than 12 hours before she planned to move out, didn't have a rental truck reserved and didn't have not one single thing packed, not furniture, not clothes, not a toothbrush. Quite the planner! Even if I had agreed and my son and I helped, he had to leave for work the next morning. She actually wanted him to load her stuff and right before he went to work, and then she would have finished up with some small things and then left. He would have came home and she would have been gone. I just can't believe how shallow and selfish she has become. I guess what my lawyer said is true - I have to get used to the fact that the woman that is leaving and divorcing me is not the same woman that I have been married to. Man, ain't that the truth.
So for now, she is still here. Said she will have to line up a moving service to come and get her things. I suppose that I could have my brother come over and help me move her things. But I just have a hard time with helping her leave me. I know it will probably lead to me winning the battle, but losing the war kind of thing - but it's a hard concept for me to deal with. Sometimes that line between validate, support, agree with no matter what, and setting boundaries and sticking to them becomes a little blurry.
