85 Days

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So in our sitchs, if we continue to do the right thing with clear consistent actions, and she sees that it is logical to be with us the LBS, then she can fall in love with us again.

I think that also plays a part in this.

Nine,

This can also be true. It is about becoming the better option. Removing what they see that makes them feel the negative emotions that they have toward us…

As they see the postitive, their thoughts change, and maybe, eventually, their feelings…

I have been so afraid of my W perceiving something I do or something that I don't do as a sign that I am just the same old Denver, that maybe I went overboard.

I also think that knowing or being afraid of OM lurking in the background has caused me to over compensate.

Two fears right up there…

Two fears that altered your behaviors (probably in somewhat of a positive way, but also in a negative way).

Personally, I think even when fear drives you to excel, it still isn’t the best thing. It has the potential to drive you beyond what you might otherwise do.

I was always fearful that something horrible, would happen to my son. He is my only child. To the extent that he went almost no where without me until he was about 12. In the end, I ended up running myself ragged, being a great mom, but also being very overprotective.

I finally had to realize that I couldn’t keep him safe forever and trust that he had learned the lessons that I tried to instill in him (ie strangers etc) and that he also knew how to get to help IF he needed it.

At some point, I had to learn to let go, let God, and learn to TRUST. TRUST in myself, TRUST in him, and TRUST in some unforeseen force that it would all be ok.

I still have fear that something will happen to him, but I don’t let those fears rule my thoughts or actions anymore…

Identify them Denver. You won’t be able to get rid of them all, but you can learn how to keep them from controlling you…