Please note: I'm not writing this to make you feel worse about the situation - I don't even know if you do feel sad about your choices. But in your earlier thread, you asked if my ex-husband could have done anything for us to reconcile. For us, no - it was a dealbreaker.
But all of the couples I know who teetered on divorce all say the same thing - it only works if both parties in the marriage ask and answer the hard questions. If you can't, then you don't want it bad enough.
