Ugh, patience..... not a strong suite of mine. I have been working on it. Not quite there yet. I start counseling individualy this week. Kind of looking forward to it.
You might want to print this one post out and bring it to your therapist since it crystallizes why you had an affair.
1.) Why did you sleep with another woman and gratify your own needs instead of working on problems with your wife?
2.) Why are you lying to yourself about not having patience. You do indeed have patience - you didn't tell your wife about having sex with another woman until the OW told your wife. So it's not that you don't have patience...you DO. What is this self-deception serving for you?
Until you can be honest with yourself, you'll never be able to have a successful marriage. It just depends if you want it bad enough to be true or continue the passive-aggressive way of making your wife have to make a decision that you've foisted on her without consulting her first.
