take it slow. Don't be over eager okay? That'll make him think you have expectations and you cannot have them right now.
Just have a drink with him then...in time you'll know if it's cake eating or progress. But I don't know how much time. That's up to you and all I can say to that, is "Where the head goes, the heart, eventually, will follow".
So think with your head, and not your fears of loss or all your needs or terror of being without him...okay? Also, try YOU being the one who needs to figure things out, not just him. You don't have to be so certain he's who you want...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016