lots of great advice, generally. But here in GB's case, I just don't see that many similarities to your sitch as I understand it. In GB's m, she tells him to his face she does want sex, BUT NOT WITH HIM. She directly insults him repeatedly.
I think that would be impossible not to take personally. She also threatens to become a prostitute, and tells him he repulses her and I'm not going to go line by line and make him feel any worse.
IMO, your advice is perfectly geared for a woman with low sex drive, whereas his w has a HD, but wants other people, AND NOT HIM.
Imo she has had all the power in this m, and she misused it. This soldier served us overseas for over a year and comes back to this?
He deserves better treatment from her. Speaking in her LL is fine and always advisable. But I think his constantly trying to please her has not worked. It has only enabled her to behave atrociously AND it's not getting better, it's getting worse. And she's just as miserable and bored.
DBing is about doing what works, and NOT doing what does not work.
If you are not sure what IS working, GB, then notice what makes things worse, and by worse, let's look at how YOU feel and not her. B/C we're here for you. Don't wait til you hate her, before you show her the way.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
