We talk casually about things. H has been going through a promotion process and he has sent me texts to let me know how each phase went. We have talked about how the tests went. He called me a week or so ago and we talked for 30 to 35 mins about general things going on in his life. Our face to face contacts are always concerning the kids. He never comes to the house unless it has to do with the kids.
His complaints were that we had grown apart, are different people than when we married, dreams not shared, etc. - he sent me an email the day before he left with these comments. He also said that his feelings were confusion, worry and some anger. After he left the complaints became that I was controlling, that he could not express himself, etc. He has said that he had conversation with OW that made him feel that she "knew where he was coming from." and that the feelings he had for her had not gone away.
I don't know if I have done any 180's except for totally letting go after his confession of feelings for OW. I only start conversations that involve the kids - I was trying to just get him to talk to me - not R talks just talking. He will usually continue the conversation into other topics - just casual conversation. I am giving him space.
I am struggling now with how to act around him. I have told him that I am not trying to get him to come home, that I am focusing on getting through school.
I am confused as to how I should act. Should I act as if? If I act as if my marriage is good and wonderful doesn't that bascially make the dark/dim null and void?
