seems he's NOT so confused. He is cake eating. Sorry, I didn't know until he posted that.
Of course, if you want, you can choose to call it MLC and ignore whatever he says. But dang, he sure sounds as if he wants to do what the hell he wants, including ML to you and divorcing you but OH NO, he doesn't want the effects (ie the consequences) to be unpleasant...oh...gee, too bad it all stinks for you...Not very adult like, is it? Maybe there is some truth to his pathology. To admit, in effect, that he wants all the benefits of marriage but NONE of the responsibilities, or commitments, is pretty amazing to admit. And pretty unappealing from the standpoint of the spoues, I'd think.
Sorry but I'd be very clear if I were you. I'd re-cap w/ something like so you do want a divorce at some point? And Time, that is really the ONLY question that matters. NOT if he ALSO wants to have sex, or whether he ALSO wants to play with the kids, etc. That all will come out with the agreements you two sign off on...
Just, clarifying that which seems clear now. But if it's not clear to you, then ask that ONE question to clarify/re=cap so you know what you are truly facing.
It'll make the intimacy issues easier to answer, I think.
Sorry.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
