85 Days

[25yearsmlc]

9,
"Too far gone?", come on.
How long have you been DBing? Is it up to 20 hours yet? I mean without a backslide, have you done a full 72 hours?

Yes, we know you've told us that FOR YOU, DBing is "so hard", (and it's such a breeze for the rest of us, but somehow, we managed to change our behaviors for more than a day...).

9, we KNOW you live in "a small town" and you "can't move", (why can't you move just a few miles away? "Can't" go to another town for groceries OR just shop later when you see her car... You "can't" stop engaging, "can't" keep your emotions in check, "can't" end conversations on a good note, "can't, can't, can't"...
Look 9, I do NOT see your situation as harder than most. Honestly, it's inconvenient b/c of the small town run ins, but there are obvious upsides to that which others would envy, so it more than evens out.

I feel those "can'ts" are just excuses for repeating mistakes.
So now, Are you really just wanting a new excuse for not trying something that you find really difficult? As in,
"9, you may as well give up, since you already went too far..."

Nonsense.

You're not getting a pass from me. If you had a marriage that was ever good (did you guys have some good times and loving memories?) Marriages with children rarely cannot recover at some point. Some of them will just take longer. And since you are among the least patient DBers around...?? Well, you tell us.

As far as going too far, I don't know what you have done or what you are referring to, or did at the time of your discovery or exactly what you are referring to. Without that information, I cannot suggest ways to repair. But I have never told someone ON THIS SITE, that it's hopeless or to give up. This isn't the place for that.

9, Look, you repeat mistakes, your timeline for monitoring or expecting results is just, well, silly. You get disappointed when she doesn't jump back into your arms, after ONE good interaction, or thinking it must not be working b/c she's still thinking about OM & yet you were nice to her 3 times! The whining about how much you miss her and want her, yeah, we get it. Been there, done that. I don't think it's the way to get through this b/c I think you let it consume you.

When You read into & commented on how your w hugged you after her mother died.[/i that was telling. Here's a 2 x 4. You can be very needy and clingy [i]and self centered. Forgive me for asking, but did you actually read the DB books cover to cover?

FYI, yes, I had some darn hard times with DB too. OH WAIT, I just recalled that this is Denver's thread.
Yikes, this is a hijack. Sorry Denver...okay hope that helps 9.
See you on your thread sometime.