Of Men or of Angels

[ninelives]

TG.

I have been following along and reading some very sage advice from the Vets. I have also been wincing at some of the lumber you have been taking as a result of this. As you know, I am relatively new at this so Im not going to pretend to offer you any better advice that what you have already received.

ONE thing stays with me when I am ready to give up hope and call it a marriage.

There were two people in my life that I cared for and each of them broke up with me, ONe when I was in my teens, my first love.
30 years later she still professes that i was her true love and she wished she never ended it.

Another girl I was almost engaged with in University also broke up with me after one and half years together. She called me three years later and wanted to get back and the when I saw her 5 years after that, she still told me she had regrets.

Here is my point. I dont think you can ever REALLY know when its over as we are dynamic creatures. I mean, if there is ABUSE where you are in danger, yes it is healthy to pull the plug.

But while your wife is engulfed in this MLC. Do you think that maybe when she comes out of this, She will regret this and there may not be a chance for the do over. I have followed your posts religiously and see you as a man full of wisdom and kindness.

I dont want to see you make an error that may haunt you for the rest of your life. The trouble is , how long do you wait for someone to come out of the fog and maybe they never do.

Im just guessing that you wanted to bait her a little by hanging on to her being late as this unforgiveable act. ONe that was disrespecting you so much. I dont know why you would want to have that perception of you as being so petty in her eyes. Remember, she is not seeing things from a logical standpoint so dont come down to her level. She doesnt see her tardiness as anything but , I couldnt help being because ( fill in excuse here) That is not the issue here for her. The issue is that you couldn't accept that flaw and you became the A$$, not her.

Again TG, I feel a little intimidated trying to give you advice but I do value your opinion and truly appreciate all the words of wisdom you have provided.

If even one thing I said strikes a chord, well then I feel that i have given back something to you.

All the best.

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