I think since you are no longer defensive you just embrace the fact that you have improved yourself and let it go. If you have interactions with him maybe he will see this change in you, but if you push to show the change, it just comes off like you're pushing to get him back again, and you're SO good with giving this over to God and time and that behavior would run counter to that. So my advice is to just "be." You're doing beautifully all on your own for now.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
