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"To lose this home will be sad. We put so much time and sweat and blood into it. What hurts the most is that he seems to have lost all feeling for the place, as if he never did care. I know that's not true, but it's back to "Its what YOU (meaning me) wanted"."

I think the "seems to have lost all feeling for the place" is yet another way they block their emotions because they cannot handle them. The last my XH was at my house, he came out and said very honestly that his seeming to not care about the place was that it was "very very hard for him to be here because it just reminded him of what he had worked so hard for and what he was giving up." I said "well you don't have to give it up" and he just said nothing. I think they work very hard to make it look like they don't care because the alternative is to break down in front of us, and they won't do it.

You sound really positive about your new start--and that's a great place to be, to get excited about a new direction.