Can I close the door and leave it unlocked?

[ninelives]

Are you sure of your feelings Islander? It seems like a rather sudden change of heart. Are you reacting to a situation that seem impossible. Yes, sometimes you wonder if you ever really knew them but try and look at the good times , not just the past hurt she inflicted on you. And its possible that you didnt really know her at least , not the new her.

Just take a little more time before you make decisions about moving on with the other sex. Its usually not fair to the new woman in your life. I have had little flings with a couple of women at it has left me very unsatisfied. Made me feel more empty. AT times i would say to myself, You are not my wife, what am i doing here with you. It was a kneejerk reaction and it turned out poorly.

Up to you Islander, and maybe you have to go through this to see how you feel. I suspect it will not be a good thing but I have been wrong before.

Glad to hear that you are continuing to detach. My fling did theh opposite for me. At first , the first one seemed ok and I convinced myself I was doing the right thing, but then later I knew, and so did she , that I was still in love with my wife and she was just filling a void.

Patience I think right now, continue to detach but be patient.

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