I've got a question (just a curiousity really). There are two sides to every coin, and I am pretty certain I have my sitch figured out, but from all I have read on this forum, I seem to be unique. Let me explain.
Most of the opinion here leans toward the notion that when a LBS receives interest from OP's that the WAS suddenly (or gradually) becomes a little jealous and it grabs their attention. Well as a lonesome, LBH I would certainly be tempted by any attention, but I don't believe WAW would react in the way some of you would expect.
On that day the bomb fell in my lap, W was giddy about OM, an exH from her teenage past, and she also made suggestions that I should find out about my past GF's (I was engaged twice before meeting W). She even said she thought waitress on a previous night liked me, flirted etc. etc. She really made it sound like she wanted me to "find" someone else the way she had.
I guessed that she was simply attempting to assuage her guilt about the A and her intended family breakup, so I never really took her "advice" seriously. We have a background in our 18 years of being faithful parishoners in our community, heavily involved, committed to kids, the whole bit. And over the past few months, in my many hours of prayer and contemplation, one message has stood out, to keep myself pure. That means no OW's, no porno, no strip clubs, etc. etc. If I fall off that wagon, it will justify WAW and push her further away.
You should know that a civil D means nothing to me in the grand scheme, because unless the church annuls my M, I'm still married. I will not, cannot, forsake my faith. I wear my ring (even though it says "forever yours W").
Is this sitch so unusual?
Has enough time (and giddiness) passed that maybe she would be jealous?
Starving for pleasant female company, Pic.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
