Have you taken responsibility and or apologized for any of the mistakes you made, or pain you inflicted on her? I know you feel you are the aggrieved party, but NEWSFLASH...she sees herself as the aggrieved party, not you. I am not defending her affair. I'm trying to help you save your m.
Yes I have and in writing. I made sure that she knows I accept responsibility for my mistakes , that I am working through them actively and recognised the hurt I caused her. I dont feel a victim in this situation and I agree my ww would think she is the aggrieved one. In some of the emails I have responded to her with, I always validate her position and never make judgements. So these are good 180s for me.
She has said that she hears what I am saying and that I do say the right things, there is that scepticism though in will I actively carry that through.
the journey continues
Facingdivorce Me: 46 W: 40 D8 D6 Seperated feb 2011
