wife having affair - please help

[facingdivorce]

Hi 25, I knew you were going to bust me on the outing expsoure.So I can sort that out with the lawyers, but in one way I still think it shifts their affair discussions from loving, fun to lawyers, termination. So has it stopped the affair? I dont know, I know he hasnt been around in 10 days, but is there a causal link - I cant tell. Is my wife mad - yessssssss.

BUT I AGREE WITH YOU, no more exposure. I can apply pressure to the affair, purely by not co operating on her travel co ordination which is what I did this week. She wanted to travel Wed / Thursday to OS ( same country as OM ) I just said cant do it, doesnt work into my schedule. She has to travel nextweek for a biz pitch and the answer is the same.

I will start communications again soon, and wont do the website as I was thinking.

I just need to be calm and without rancour in what I say. Agree I should not have moved out, but that happened before I knew of OM and found this website. So I have to build my strategy on not being there. In one way it would have been almost impossible to stay there and not gone crazy.

I dont want to assume what my wife was thinking about our marriage, mainly because I have no idea as to the person who currently inhabits her body...

I would say though
I was not meeting all her needs
We were doing far too many changes with too much pressure
I was tired and travelled just as much
I was judgemental
I was emotionally detached

So there are things I am working on by myself and some things with my IC, so I do want to show her, but really doing them for myself. This weekend aI dont have the kids, but I have had a good time of gal ing and just some quiet time. So its getting better for me.

My wife left a vm on the kids, but she sounded angry.. The anger is something I dont understand, I assume it is designed to keep me away.

Thanks will keep on track now