So my wife had an affair, D-Day back in september. I have learned alot since but now probably need different guidance from those wiser than myself. Yes I have been told I am crazy for wanting to save this M. But with 5 kids and a relationship that I thought was good I think it is worth it. I believe she built her wall brick by brick with each thing she pushed under the rug the last brick going in place last spring and then the ea/pa. We left out pro marriage councillor last week agreeing to seperate. This can be done with minimal financial impact due to we have a second seasonal place she will stay at. I was thinking a controlled seperation plan. We have only agreed since the end of last week that she will stay here/ there and then be home when needed for the kids. I am home more. The last staws that brought us to this point was her not coming homee one night and not contacting me, her sister confirms she was at her house and sick. then my W lying about buying another cell phone. Contact with the other man is supposedly over . However she has been texting new numbers. She has opened up more since we agreed to seperation. I don't understand that. I an at this point looking for guidance on the best way to handle this seperation so as to encourage reconcilliation.
