85 Days

[Denver_2010]

Denver, you forgot about option 3, give your W space and LIVE.

Look, I know that you have had hesitations about backing off, because it would feel like the 'same old Denver.'. The one that didn't give your W enough attention to begin with.

BUT, now she is asking for it. Giving her space now isn't same old same old. It's the new Denver. The one who listens and respects what his W says and wants.

This doesn't mean 'wait.'. It means giving her the time she needs, and frankly, given your recent state of mind, the time you desperately need as well.

USE the time.

Work on you. Get yourself happy. Find yourself again. The confident, smart and caring guy we all know you are.

At the same time, your W gets to work on herself.

I told you before, you're lucky, your W TELLS you what she wants. Most of us our out here guessing.

Really man, go back and read your posts from when your W first started to come around. Remember that guy? Find him. He's waiting to be unleashed.

Country - Thanks for your very thoughtful advice. You have become an asset to the boards IMO.

Option 3 huh? I see that. My problem has become the 'living' part of that. My life has become mostly about W and SS over the past several months. Now, I feel 'left' and 'bombed' all over again.... left holding feelings of abandonment and lonliness all over again.

My problem with GAL is that I am struggling to find things that I want to do that don't include my W and SS. I GAL'd my a$s off for the first 35+ years of my life. At least in the sense of going out, partying, dating etc. Now? All I want is to be a family guy... yet I have no family.

When I GAL'd in December and January, it was going out and partying more... It did work to some degree, but I found it very empty.... When W and I moved closer in Feb, March and April, I began to feel fulfilled... actually for the first time, maybe ever. Because through the early months of THIS, I found what I truly wanted in life... my family ... time with my family ... fun with my family ...

So hearing the advice to GAL now is very difficult... even though I know that it is the right advice.

"This doesn't mean 'wait.'. It means giving her the time she needs, and frankly, given your recent state of mind, the time you desperately need as well.

USE the time."

I know man... I am trying. I will continue to try.

Thanks Country.

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Denver