Won't stand for a broken family

[Timetotry]

IC says limbo can take too long for us. She is concerned that I am going through the grieving process and I will come out of it into acceptance but he will not have even started. She says he is avoiding his internal issues. She believes if I come into acceptance I will not want him back and that is generally when the WAH wants back.


Just had a 'text' conversation where this came up words were as follows:

H: In your mind I was nothing special.
M: Always been special to me. Shame you didn't see it that way.
H:Sorry, can't change that.
M:Yes, when one is willing. It's a level of trust.
H:Not sure when that could happen...sorry.
M:It can't happen overnight. It has to be built. Problem is it can't be built without spending time and talking. Wierd how that's what my therapist has been saying for 2 weeks not to tell you. Just didn't know how not am I looking for pressure, just stating what her opinion is.
H:Its' ok to say it and its not pressure but where we are right now is ok to me..sorry I am light years from next step. Not looking for feelings now. I know that is not what you want to hear but its where I am.
M:Where exactly is that in your mind?
H:We are at a place right not where we can coexsist. No fights, no dislike just an exploration point.
M: Exploration of what? Our feelings?
H: Yes, and into ourselves.
M: Ok well that's ok. Gotta be happy internally before externally. It's a foundation.
H: Right.

So from this I pull there was no D talk, he acknowledges the positive times and just wants more time to see if things 'stick'. But he still wants physical touch and family time without committment. I beleive then I have to continue doing what I am doing, seems to be working just at a slow pace. If he catches up, great, if not I will be ok. We are building the friendship that turns to romance that turns to committment.

At least this is what I am convincing myself is happening.