you'll get pressured by some not to have sex, but the DB coaches themselves say it's a personal matter for we, the LBSers to decide. Very personal. Sounds obvious but trust me, others will say not to, or to use protection (which might be sound advice). Thing is, the gf of mine who wanted me to stop sex was essentially advising me to punish h by witholding sex, and when I figured out that was her true motivation, I didn't listen to her anymore.
If you are comfortable with it, then accept that. (FWIW, I felt the same way. Maybe it h were sleeping around with several OWs or acting drugged out, I'd have felt different. But that wasn't the case. To each his own.)
One comment I heard that resonated was "no man ever went home to his wife for the great sex they NEVER had...." just sayin'...
If your h doesn't want to get c, (obviously to US, that means he has major fears b/c otherwise, why would he resist it so much? ) then I guess my question is, "well, does he NEED counselling to be your h again?
what are the conditions you'd set for him to return? Does he SAY he wants back in. or are his actions what you are seeing?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
