WAW, and a bisexual open marriage

[ninelives]

Hey GB, adding my two cents.

Listen to Country, great advice. Validating is one thing but IF YOU DONT WANT your wife having an A, you dont validate that pure and simple. There are moral boundries that we all have and that is one of them. Forgiving is a completely different thing but condoning an ongoing lifestyle like that would be difficult for most.

Some people can handle that. I have friends that are swingers and you would never know that, but they are both in favour of that so I guess its allright. Not my cup of tea.

PLEASE follow the advice as closely as you can. I have been the poster boy for Trying and Understanding the right thing but having my Emotions take over and thats when things DONT GO WELL.

I know we are all human, ( except some of the extreme Walkaways) and we will make mistakes. The key is not to make the same mistakes over and over. Detaching is so important and so very difficult.

Dont beat yourself up over the backslides but dont brush them off either. Learn what works and continue that and stop doing things that dont work.

Easier said than done like most things in life but if you truly want things to work, you have to do things that seem counterintuitive.

Keep reading, keep posting and try and step back before you do anything silly fueled by emotion.

It has really hurt my sitch over this last year and a half.

ONe last thing, when trying to GAL, mean it for you and not to show her. Again, easier said than that but eventually, you will start enjoying what life has to offer and focussing less on her and how she affects you. YOu enjoyed life before her and will do it again some day if need be. She doesnt define you as a person.

Good luck.

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