Mission 25. I Really Mean it this time>

[ninelives]

As I mentioned to country, MUM is the word. I was out last night with some friends. IT was her week last week wtih the boys and she asked me if I could look after youngest son those two nights.

She asked me if I could look after youngest son until her shift ended yesterday as well. Till 7:30. I did and made a nice Mexican meal for them. She was supposed to pick youngest up at 730.

I left at 7:10 to go out for a poker night and left youngest son with oldest son for 35 min or so.

I get a text from her around 7:50

W: could you ask younget son to bike to my place? I am tired to pick him up. ( takes 3 min BTW)

M: IM sorry, Im out right now. I can call him and tell him to go to your house>

W: Oh, I was late getting home today from work.

(BTW; instant flashback for me on a few occasions she would call and say she would be late from work an hour or so, turns out she was going to her place and having sex with OM, entered mind briefly but I stop signed it out, small victory)

M: Ok I'll call him.

W: I can call him as well.

M: OK

( She texts me back a few minutes later)

W: Got a hold of hm , hes on his way to my place.

M: Ok


HOws that folks for keeping the communication down.

I will try very hard not to take their bait because making the same mistake over and over is Ridiculous. Im not a stupid man so I will walk away more often. Hopefully, there isnt a reason to engage in that again.

So last night my friends had too many drinks and we decided to go to the bar. You guessed it, the only bar in this one horse town and thats where OM works as DJ on weekend. I really havent seen him up close.

At first I declined to go to avoid an unpleasant scene and friends kept insisting that I cant avoid that place forever because HE works there.

ONe of my friends works on the oilfields in Alberta and is now in Pa in the States and he CANNOT BELIEVE that my w is with OM.

Well we go to bar and sure enough, he is working as DJ. My first real look at this guy and my stomach almost turns. The eptiome of a "bum" and not at all attractive.

I hang with my friends, have a few drinks and force myself to get by this because IF im ever to have a social drink, I have to get over this.

At the end of the night, he has to walk by my table. He is a coward and talks to the bouncer and then has him escort him passed me. I didnt look at him directly but my one friend , IMO, dramatically stands between him and me. He walks passed me and its over. I didnt say a thing.

BTW, I was talking to a 28 year old , cute blonde french teacher at the time. NO INCIDENT. Passed without saying a word.

I am through with DRAMA I hope. 25, I can see where you think that I am addicted to the drama and I wonder on some level if I am. ONe of my freinds begged me not to say ANYTHING to W when she picked him up the other day and i said I would not, then when she showed up , there was numbnits nine, outside talking to her.

Well I passed yesterday and last night and I will try and keep this short term goal for this week. Do not initiate or talk to W other than about children.

My friend from the fields was really drunk and asked me too many times; " Seriously, IS your wife crazy? What future does she think she has with that BuM? I grew up in this town and that entire family are bums?

I finally said, buddy, stop talking about my W okay. Its not helping. I know you are trying to help and I appreciate your support but really, enough about her okay.

He was cool after that.

NO 2x4s needed today country and 25, I hope you can put them back in the lumber yard.

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