H left me 2 weeks ago today for the 3rd time in 4 yrs.
He text me (again) tonight : "Are you mad at me?".
I finally got the kahunees to say in a respectful way: "No, I believe you have an illness of alcoholism and it is best that I let go so that I dont get dragged, if you ever want any help - I will be here for you".
Immediately he text childishly/cockishly back: "your right about the illness part, I have worked to not let it get the best of me, I cant and will not answer to any person".
I didnt respond. So he text back again:"We DO have to let go, I dont want to lose you" and then again: "Good Night, Tipper".
After my phone was done blowing up - I responded: "I will always be here for you, Good night".
I can tell he was pissed off by the quick response of the texts, and because the truth hurts. He is so in denial, but I know that if we are ever going to have a healthy happy marriage - he needs to face his alcohol problem and try to heal.
I have read in the a.a. book it is good to caringly and respectfully plant the seed in there head that they need to get help.
I really hope I did just that. I know his parents said the same thing to him last week. He refuses to listen, but I know it is going to make him think.
Did I do the right thing??? I didnt mean to piss him off, but I probably did! TIPPER
