Won't stand for a broken family

[Timetotry]

My IC says he does have a personality disorder and is a narcissist. She says he has borderline psychosis but not all hope is lost. She said it will take a long time in therapy. H wants no part of counseling, he thinks its a waste.

His parents had a D when he was 4 cause mom had met OM and they married. OM had a breakdown, threatend to kill mom when he was 17. OM ended up in jail until a few years ago for trying to have someone killed (he was paranoid against roofing unions). That same year H (17 years old, senior year)had first love being told they can no longer be together because of a car accident. My H had a slip on ice and went over the road. It killed his younger brother and hurt GF brother (coma for a few months but then was ok). H turned to drugs for a few months, after graduated went to college for two months and dropped out. I met him a few years later but he was still lost. I supported him, put him through school, got him his first real job too. Finally able to take the lead, and decided he can't take it anymore.

IC thinks he really never loved me that he doesn't understand real love. Tough pill to swallow when for 20 years, despite some issues, I believe we had a great life.

His brother's anniversay death is Jan 3rd, coincidentally two days later he dropped the bomb. I can sure pick them from the way this sounds but he really wasn't that bad all these years IMO.