Won't stand for a broken family

[Timetotry]

Thanks 25 for your response.

Yes, read both books so far 3 times. Read 5LL too so I can make sure I 'fill his jar'.

I do get the idea of 'road home paved and smooth' and it has been for many weeks now. No negativity at all. He has said he is confused which is better than the original few weeks of threats. Texting and even calling me more, I think its progress although my IC says it isn't because we don't talk about issues.

I don't bring up the past and even said one time when he said he is scared to come back to get hurt that I believe we can't bring up the past and start from today on. I believe he is just giving it time to see if the changes stick. He seems to test me of which I have not backslided at all. He has told kids he sees me 'finding myself' which is a 180 too.

My IC wants me to bring up how we are in limbo for too long. I said that's not the DB method. She doesn't think that will work for him. She believes he is in a MLC due to childhood trama and I am the blame now. She suggested saying that it was her idea in so that we talk about issues to determine if we should work on the R or get a D. I am not ready for that. I am not scared of what he would say, I just don't think he knows right now and that would only push back the progress.

Any thoughts? Would love to have your wisdom.