My H said to me during one of our last R talks that when we were living apart for 7 months, he thought often of ending our R and getting a D. He said he was happy with himself, his friends and enjoyed living on his own, etc.
I think it's easy for someone in an R to see the greener grass because they are sitting with the loving support of their companion at all times (even if it's not that great at the given moment). He was all alone but he was never alone - we talked every day, we shared stories and even had "dates" online where we would watch the same movie and skype, etc. He was happy to speak with me, excited to tell me about what he was doing in his life, even created photo journals of his hikes and other things around the city for me and his family.
I can't say I was being the best wife, I certainly see my part in all of this and I'm doing what I can to change. But I was still being a wife and put few limitations on him - he could do what he wanted and when all his friends were busy or he wanted to feel a closer, deeper relationship, I was always there. I can only hope that the "magic" of his new life alone wears off soon and he realizes this.
