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Re: I'm still here all these years later BeTheMan #2154181 05/13/11 09:25 PM
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 13,511 Likes: 1 CA- now East coast 2 25yearsmlc Member
25yearsmlc Member 2 Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 13,511 Likes: 1 CA- now East coast	I understand why you want to quit. It's been a LONG HARD ROAD...but as for hoping she "wakes up" and "Gets it"...you will wait a long time. Even if she did, she'd never tell you. And she won't in all likelihood. I've seen ONE person wake up and get it, and tell the LBSer and it was a month before the LBSer's wedding to her OM...(her h had left her and filed for div 3 years earlier, saw her getting m and THEN said "oops" but he didn't necessarily want back in, just wanted her to know he'd screwed up. She said she'd never go back to her ex h b/c 'now she knows what it's like to be the priority in a man's life"...and she's happier now than she ever could have been WITH her first h. But your happiness is NOT dependent on her misery. If you are waiting for her to "get it" you are essentially connecting two unrelated things. Your happiness is within your control and once you really take ownership of that, whatever the heck she's doing won't matter. Who cares if she never gets it? If you find another w who gets you, then you are happier! If you truly become the best man you can become, and GAL, then you are happier! She can be in the Austrailian outback or Mars. She is irrelevant to your happiness. She may never wake up or believe you were a great catch or your changes would never have happened if she had not left, etc. You are in charge of your life. Not her.[b] Don't spend your energy wanting to be vindicated or proven "right". What matters is the happiness you create for YOU & yours.[/b] M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 2016 X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016 = CLOSURE 4 ME Embrace the Change

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I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 02:21 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 12:07 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	iwllbd1	05/01/11 02:11 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 03:02 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Timetotry	05/01/11 03:08 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/02/11 10:00 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/03/11 12:46 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/03/11 12:49 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/03/11 12:59 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/03/11 12:29 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/03/11 12:53 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/03/11 03:21 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 04:42 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 04:43 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 05:03 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 07:24 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 07:30 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 07:35 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 07:51 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 08:05 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 08:17 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 08:07 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 08:12 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/01/11 08:15 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	dbmod	05/01/11 08:15 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 08:25 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	dbmod	05/01/11 08:50 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/02/11 12:11 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/02/11 01:15 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/02/11 09:50 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Still learning	05/03/11 04:52 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Still learning	05/03/11 05:03 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/03/11 06:08 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/03/11 08:01 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	facingdivorce	05/03/11 08:30 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/03/11 11:29 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/04/11 12:50 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/04/11 03:24 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/04/11 11:31 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Still learning	05/04/11 12:07 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/04/11 12:40 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/04/11 12:45 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/04/11 02:03 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/04/11 10:00 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/05/11 12:48 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/05/11 01:22 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/06/11 12:05 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/06/11 02:20 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/06/11 11:36 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/07/11 01:16 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/07/11 11:55 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/08/11 12:23 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/08/11 12:30 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 12:45 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 12:48 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 11:12 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 01:15 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 01:18 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	punchy	05/08/11 01:32 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 01:49 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	punchy	05/08/11 01:56 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/08/11 01:25 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/08/11 02:51 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/08/11 03:00 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/08/11 03:00 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/09/11 01:10 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	~�DG�~	05/09/11 01:26 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/09/11 01:53 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/09/11 02:19 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/09/11 02:40 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/09/11 02:40 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/09/11 06:06 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	dbmod	05/09/11 11:33 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/10/11 03:16 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/10/11 03:25 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/10/11 11:34 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/11/11 01:14 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	~ kd ~	05/11/11 01:25 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/11/11 01:39 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/11/11 04:56 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/11/11 07:01 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/11/11 07:13 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/11/11 09:45 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/12/11 01:30 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/12/11 02:05 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/12/11 02:20 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	calystra	05/12/11 03:20 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/12/11 03:41 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	~ kd ~	05/12/11 04:17 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/12/11 04:56 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/12/11 04:56 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/13/11 01:39 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/12/11 04:55 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/13/11 05:44 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	~ kd ~	05/13/11 06:01 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	25yearsmlc	05/13/11 09:25 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/14/11 12:25 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	25yearsmlc	05/14/11 12:47 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/14/11 01:57 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/15/11 12:16 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/15/11 05:40 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/16/11 05:31 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/16/11 05:54 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/17/11 01:55 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	ninelives	05/17/11 02:47 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/18/11 02:06 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/18/11 01:24 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/18/11 02:07 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	25yearsmlc	05/18/11 09:53 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/18/11 03:35 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/18/11 06:44 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	InAPickle	05/18/11 07:27 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/18/11 08:56 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	25yearsmlc	05/18/11 09:39 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/18/11 09:54 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/21/11 02:05 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/22/11 03:01 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/22/11 12:57 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/22/11 08:37 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	AJM80	05/23/11 01:08 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/23/11 12:53 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	AJM80	05/24/11 02:30 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/24/11 01:51 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/25/11 01:46 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/25/11 03:21 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/25/11 04:42 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	25yearsmlc	05/25/11 03:37 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/25/11 03:48 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/25/11 07:07 PM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	dbmod	05/27/11 02:17 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/27/11 03:01 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	Starsky309	05/18/11 02:34 AM
Re: I'm still here all these years later	BeTheMan	05/01/11 07:27 PM

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