But what did your wife do? Just start having sex with you again so you wouldn't leave? How does that work?
When she realized I was serious about leaving if things didn't change, she agreed to a minimum of scheduled sex (weekly), with the possibility of unscheduled of course.
Scheduled sex sounds so unromantic, but it helps a lot because it means I am able to handle the times she rejects my advances with much more grace, meaning less pressure on her, which just improves things all round.
I am not necessarily encouraging you to make such an ultimatum, unless you are actually ready to leave. It could backfire.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
