I am reading divorce remedy. In chapter 5 Michelle talks about therapists. My W was seeing a therapist, but W feels there is nothing being accomplished. W has said that therapist is asking her what she wants to accomplish. W is unsure. W has said that therapist had suggested about leaving me and moving on. That has not happened. Michelle also talks about that if a therapist is laying there own values on a client, that the client should leave that therapist. The question I have is do morals and values ever play a role in therapy? I get the Solutions Base Theory. When does or how does a therapist start to direct a client without interjecting values or morals, to a person who is Bipolar, is cheating on their spouse, they know its wrong and are having a hard time accepting that, to help them realize that they are not only hurting the people that love them but also hurting themselves. A bipolar person may find that the thrill and excitement of having the affair makes them feel good even though they know it’s wrong. Is infidelity in a case of someone who is bipolar a choice of being unfaithful and disloyal or is it a psychological problem.
I am finding myself having trouble sleeping these days. My wife has also talked in her sleep and been talking to the OM. a little nerve racking if I may say.
I am working out 3 days a week. Focusing on my business but finding it real hard. I love my wife very much, but it feels like we are roommates for the most part. She has started to become somewhat receptive to being to a little more intimate. But it feels very disconnected when we do become physically intimate. I long for that connection and intimacy we once had.
Unfortunately I did find out that OM still travels here once a month. I still have my suspicions which I am trying very very hard not to think about that he and W still see each other when he comes to town. I also feel that they communicate via instant messaging on her iphone. She is very protective of her iphone. Gets real nervous if I even pick it up. I heard W say the heart wants to do what the heart wants to do. So it makes me nervous when I hear those types of things. I have told W that I totally trust her. But have times where that is difficult to deal with as well.
What do I do if my suspicions about OM are true? Do I confront W? Like I have said before I feel divorce is not the answer. I can attest to that from experience. Don’t want to go through another divorce.
Still desperately need direction, support, and advice and help...
It is very much appreciated to those who have responded...
