Yes I do agree that hiring help, would have been wise and certainly cheaper and less painful than divorce. Honestly at that point she was doing nothing. Also she had kissed other men before we even had our first child, before I was working overtime, while I was there for her (due to my infidelity while we dated I'm sure).
Regardless I don't want to paint myself as a hero, but I want you to understand I tried... Dear GOD did I... I got it... I understood my mistakes and did my best to recover for many years. I helped out of love... Was not angry... I loved being home with my kids... I gave of myself because I thought she was having a breakdown. I became resentful after she left... I felt like it was a slap in the face after how much I gave... How hard I tried. Bottom line she checked out and the more I tried to be a better husband... I became less of man in her eyes... Less desirable I guess... just my opinion.
You know when this all started my W said she wanted out because she was not in love with me, felt I ruined her life by having so many kids, she felt life was passing her by. She told the counselor I had made all the changes she could think of, that I was nearly perfect, but she didn't feel she loved me any longer. There were OM in her life at that point.
I agree I think it's important for me to stop putting her in a bad light... regardless of it being true or not. I see it does make me look like an angry jerk and justifies her actions. I will try today forth to leave my comments ands frustrated rants for these boards.
yes I did mean olive branch... No wonder she looked at me wierd.
