Well I'm still confused about the initiating. I think it's is pressure to him and he starts to make excuses (he is "dirty" and hasn't showered, his stomach hurts, etc.) and so then it just gets awkward, so I've backed off.
I agree that sex and intimacy are very important; we're both recovering from a very rough year on our relationship (that happened about ten months ago) and so I'm trying to have patience and we're working on healing stuff - which I think is great - I just miss sex and am kind of suffering (like sex drive with no outlet)
He's of the mind that he wants things to be better *first* and I'm of the mind that things *will get better* with sex!
But I don't know if his angle is an excuse. I'm tired of wondering.
