Read cat's post again. And am I the only one who saw hope in the words of the w? She didn't say "i don't want you". She said "I'M NOT READY YET"...
and I love her clarity. Denver, she's telling you that you are smothering her and the whole 24/7 thing means BACK OFF and she cannot be clearer than that.
Your fears of OM are, as you know, making you behave in a way that increases the chances of him being around.
I think a lot of times our fear based behavior ends up creating the very reality we are most afraid of and right now you have a likely example of that.
You're a L. You must be reasonably smart (no L's jokes please folks!! I come here to feel safe... )
You know where the head goes, the heart will, eventually, follow.
Keep your head on straight and man up with some dang discipline. If things don't work out at least it won't be b/c you couldn't listen to her and back the heck off.
And you have more than the 2 naked options as has been pointed out. You can drop the rope and live your life well, Period. I can't wait for her to discover how OM is over time, with SS and real life. She may need to explorer that to figure out how great you are.
BTW, don't fear her being free so much. When my h and I were sep I did date a bit. Enough to discover 2 things. 1) there were plenty of men out there I would enjoy knowing; and 2) my h was well suited for me. Good news all around actually.
She knows how to find you when the time comes, and if you're available, lucky her.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
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