Can I close the door and leave it unlocked?

[ninelives]

Islander, more and more I am seeing this for what it is. Whatever happens, take the high road. Be there for SD and take the pain from the book but never let her know about it. Keep her sheltered.

Yes, this is such a confusing time for all and GOd knows how many mistakes we have made but STOP making the same ones over and over. Try and be positive about the play and make it so she is excited about it.

IM not saying you did anything wrong but YOU HAVE to STOP the blame game in your OWN HEAD. Thats the pot calling the KETTLE black but WE HAVE TO ISLANDER.

We have to accept our EX's decisions because they own them and then play the cards we are dealt. When we play these cards , make them positive for the innocents involved and even for the people that screwed up.

We know your wife screwed up, but maybe its time to forgive her and then just go from there. I am trying to put my energy into that now. Forgive the Weaker person, the one that gave up on the marriage, the one that didnt truly have the vision for the future and just wanted her pain to end now.

BE the better person ISlander. Lets get there together since we
have shared so much in our sitch's . LEts strive to be the ones that can NEVER be accused of being selfish AGAIN.

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