Just want to add one thing Denver. I also think you have been living OPTION 1 for a long time and will continue to do that even if you think that you have moved on to OPTION 2.

For now and until you can get your head on straight, you will be looking in the rearview mirror and obsessing whether she is back with OM.

YOu know my sitch, in mine, there is no guess work, she is with the OM so i need to go to OPTION 2.

Somehow , and it aint gonna be easy, you need to get to option 2 or Country's three and really mean it.

She is no where near ready to committ to your marriage again Denver any time soon. Even if she does, I think she might resent you and feel that you pressured her into getting back and that will not be sustainable.

ONLY when you truly detach and she REally comes back on her own to you stand a chance.

Hang in there Denver, you have sooooo many people pulling for you.

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BITS
M-46
W-42
M-16y
T-19 y
s10 s15
BombDec.19/09
Sep-F16/10
Sep Papers signed by W- June 30/10
Recon July 5/10
PA foundOut- Oct 30/10
Mental HospNov/10
moved out Nov/10
Leg Sep Mar 15/11