I think you are missing the point, and I take the blame for being too "cryptic"
I apologize for that
I will be more straight to the point with what I am seeing....
Nobody is telling you that you have to do this or do that
Nobody is saying that you have to be one way or another
What I see, and this is only my opinion...
You are ready for this to end, and you didn't want to be the one who pulled the plug
In the absence of her initiating this, you manufactured a boundary, that was not stated to her beforehand.
When you enforced said boundary, it caused the reaction you needed to be able to say that you have had enough, and walk away feeling justified with your decision.
Nobody has told you that you have to stay, or walk away....
But I am damned sure gonna challenge you when I see this...
You are using anger to fuel this immediate decision.
Have you thought it through completely ? I am sure you have.
Have you given it everything you have ? Maybe so.
Walk away or don't walk away Grit....
That decision is yours
You have handled this with the Dignity, Grace , and Honor that many would aspire to have....
Until this.
Your ending deserves way better than you are giving it....
