The truth is, we all find ourselves being impatient sometimes. 9 said it recently, WE WANT IT FIXED NOW!
It's true. I admit it, I get these grandiose thoughts in my head of her "awakening" and running into my arms. But I know you're right, that is not the way it works.
I think what I really needed was some reassurance. I am as confused as anyone regarding what I am doing. Add on this sudden death, something I do not have experience with, and I find myself touching and feeling my way along hoping I don't trip.
Thanks for reminding me of the positives and where my expectations, or lack there of, should be. It is easy to lose focus, and forget where we started.
I think a lot of us know the address of where we want to be. We just don't know all the turns it takes to get there. On top of that, we forget to look out the window and enjoy the drive.
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Keep it up, and remember that for the next several weeks your w will lack the strength to re-assess any choices she has been making. She doesnt' have the energy right now to second guess things. But you planted seeds that you know are in there...let them grow. Don't push. Back off, while being supportive and upbeat. When she resurfaces and comes up for air, she'll look around and you'll be looking good. That's how i see it anyhow.
Thanks again. I hope you're right. After the service this Saturday I should have the chance to get back to normal. Our schedule with D will be back to normal, and I think it will be time for me to get back to me, and see where things head.
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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.